Hayat\u0131m\u0131za kataca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z minik \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, rutinimizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye izin verdi\u011fimiz yeni ve belki daha fark\u0131ndal\u0131kl\u0131 se\u00e7imleri, \u00e7ok zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 almayacak ama hayat\u0131m\u0131zda ya\u015famsal ve duygusal a\u00e7\u0131dan \u00e7ok fark yaratabilecek tatl\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 bir araya toplayay\u0131m, bilenlere hat\u0131rlatal\u0131m, bilmeyenlere g\u00f6sterelim diye her g\u00fcn Hayat D\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcr\u00fcc\u00fc Mini Egzersizler<\/b>den birini buraya yazarak, elimden geldi\u011fince hepsini bir araya toplamaya karar verdim.<\/p>\n
Yaparken \u00e7ok da eme\u011finizi harcatmayacak, fazlaca zaman\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 almayacak, ama yapt\u0131k\u00e7a hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirecek egzersizlerden bug\u00fcn <\/span>ne var derseniz:<\/p>\n Bug\u00fcn bizi en \u00e7ok \u00fczen insanlar\u0131n hangi beklentimizi kar\u015f\u0131lamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 elimizde ka\u011f\u0131d\u0131m\u0131z kalemimiz, sakin bir ortamda ve sadece kendimize ay\u0131rd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z zamanda yazd\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131za emin olal\u0131m\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n Her t\u00fcrl\u00fc negatif duygunun olu\u015fabilmesi i\u00e7in bir inan\u00e7 kal\u0131b\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n, o inan\u00e7 kal\u0131b\u0131na uymayan bir etki ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmas\u0131 gerekir\u2026<\/p>\n \u0130nan\u00e7 kal\u0131b\u0131, kendine uygun olmayan bu etki ile kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131nda tepki olarak, bu uygunsuzlu\u011fu belirtmek i\u00e7in d\u00fc\u015f\u00fck titre\u015fimli bir tepkileme yayar\u2026 <\/span><\/p>\n Ama\u00e7, bize uygun olmayan bu titre\u015fimi fark edip, bize uygun olmayan bu inan\u00e7 kal\u0131b\u0131n\u0131 bulup temizlemekken, varl\u0131k s\u00fcrekli ka\u00e7- sava\u015fta ya\u015farken buna f\u0131rsat bulamaz ve yarat\u0131lan duygu ve benzerleri yarat\u0131lmaya devam ettik\u00e7e ayr\u0131\u015ft\u0131rma ve temizleme yap\u0131lmad\u0131\u011f\u0131ndan, yarat\u0131lan titre\u015fimle bezenen bedenimiz bunu normali saymaya ba\u015flar. <\/span><\/p>\n <\/p>\n Ve bu normal olarak sayd\u0131\u011f\u0131 titre\u015fime uygun bir ya\u015fam olu\u015fturmak i\u00e7in benzer duygular \u00fcretme \u00e7abas\u0131na girer.<\/p>\n Basitle\u015ftirelim konuyu\u2026<\/p>\n Sevdi\u011finiz insanlardan hangi beklentiler i\u00e7ine girdiniz?<\/p>\n Nas\u0131l sevilmek istediniz?<\/p>\n Nas\u0131l duyulmak?<\/p>\n Nas\u0131l fark edilmek, takdir edilmek, hayata dahil edilmek arzusundayd\u0131n\u0131z ve sevdi\u011finiz bu beklentinizi fark etmedi bile?<\/p>\n Onun yan\u0131nda g\u00fcvende olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131za dair bir beklentiniz vard\u0131 da sizi g\u00fcvende tutamad\u0131 ve hatta g\u00fcvenli alan\u0131n\u0131za zarar mi verdi?<\/p>\n Ne olursa olsun gitmeyece\u011fi, \u00f6lmeyece\u011fi, ilk ve \u00f6ncelikli sizi se\u00e7ece\u011fine dair yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z beklentinin nereden geldi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fcn\u00fcz m\u00fc yoksa?<\/p>\n Seven insan katlan\u0131r,<\/p>\n Seven insan gitmez,<\/p>\n Seven insan korur, kollar,<\/p>\n Seven insan sevdi\u011finin i\u015fini kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r,<\/p>\n Seven insan \u00f6nce sevdi\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcr,<\/p>\n Vs vs vs vs vs vs\u2026 <\/span><\/p>\n Ger\u00e7ekten mi?<\/p>\n Ne kadar \u00e7ok inan\u00e7 kal\u0131b\u0131 ile \u00f6r\u00fcl\u00fcy\u00fcz sevgiye dair\u2026 \u0130li\u015fkilere dair\u2026.<\/p>\n Hangileri ger\u00e7ek, hangileri i\u015flevsel, hangileri ge\u00e7erli diye d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeden sanki alm\u0131\u015f\u0131z sistemimize ve onlarla y\u00f6netiliyoruz bir \u00f6m\u00fcr\u2026<\/p>\n Hi\u00e7 kimse bizim ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131z anlar b\u00fct\u00fcn\u00fcn\u00fc ya\u015famad\u0131, bizim bedenimizin i\u00e7inden d\u00fcnyaya bakmad\u0131, bizi saran ellerle b\u00fcy\u00fct\u00fclmedi, ve hi\u00e7 kimse bizim duydu\u011fumuz yerden bizim g\u00f6zlerimizle g\u00f6rmedi bu d\u00fcnyay\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n Beklenti i\u00e7ine girmek, beklentilerimiz kar\u015f\u0131lanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131 zaman \u00fcz\u00fclmek ve bu \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fc ile yeni \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcler yaratmak, inanc\u0131 kaybetmek, umudu yitirmek bir se\u00e7im bu hayatta\u2026<\/p>\n Girdi\u011fimiz beklentilerin fark\u0131nda olmak, insanlar\u0131n bu beklentileri kar\u015f\u0131lamas\u0131 \u00fczerine duygular\u0131m\u0131z\u0131n sorumlulu\u011funu onlara vermek yerine, sadece ve sadece kendimizi y\u00f6netebilece\u011fimizin fark\u0131ndal\u0131\u011f\u0131yla kendi beklentilerimizi kendimizi y\u00f6neltmek ve bize davran\u0131lmas\u0131n\u0131 istedi\u011fimiz gibi hep ve s\u00fcrekli kendimize davranmak ve bunun az\u0131n\u0131 bize y\u00f6nelten insanlardan uzak durmak da bir se\u00e7im\u2026<\/p>\n Herkes elinden gelenin en iyisini yap\u0131yor hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde.<\/p>\n En \u2018\u2019 Yoook art\u0131\u0131\u0131\u0131kkk \u2018\u2019 dedi\u011finiz insanlar bile\u2026<\/p>\n Ki\u015fi kendinde olmayan\u0131 veremiyor.<\/p>\n Ki\u015fi hissetmedi\u011fini hissettiremiyor.<\/p>\n Ki\u015fi bilmedi\u011fini ya\u015fatam\u0131yor\u2026<\/p>\n Kim\u2026<\/p>\n Hangi beklentinizi kar\u015f\u0131lamad\u0131 diye \u00e7ok \u00fcz\u00fcld\u00fcn\u00fcz?<\/p>\n Ger\u00e7ekten?<\/p>\n Hala bu \u00fcz\u00fcnt\u00fcye tutulup ya\u015fama devam etmek mi hevesiniz?<\/p>\n Yoksa anlamak, kendinize sar\u0131lmak, hayat\u0131n a\u015fk\u0131n\u0131 sahiplenmek ve anda kendinizi al\u0131p yola devam etmek mi?<\/p>\n Siz kimleri \u00fczd\u00fcn\u00fcz tabi bir de kar\u015f\u0131layamad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z beklentilerle?<\/p>\n O da ayr\u0131 bir soru belki ba\u015fka bir zaman\u0131n konusu\u2026<\/p>\n Sar\u0131l\u0131r\u0131m pek \u00e7ok\u2026<\/p>\n Banu<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hayat\u0131m\u0131za kataca\u011f\u0131m\u0131z minik \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131, rutinimizi de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye izin verdi\u011fimiz yeni ve belki daha fark\u0131ndal\u0131kl\u0131 se\u00e7imleri, \u00e7ok zaman\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 almayacak ama hayat\u0131m\u0131zda ya\u015famsal ve duygusal a\u00e7\u0131dan \u00e7ok fark yaratabilecek tatl\u0131 k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmalar\u0131 bir 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