{"id":1716,"date":"2021-07-05T17:42:42","date_gmt":"2021-07-05T14:42:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/?p=1716"},"modified":"2021-07-07T23:12:05","modified_gmt":"2021-07-07T20:12:05","slug":"ask-mi-dediniz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/?p=1716","title":{"rendered":"A\u015fk m\u0131 dediniz?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b>A\u015fk\u2026<\/b><\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk Nedir ki demi\u015f bir \u00f6\u011frencim\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Yazar m\u0131s\u0131n? Anlat\u0131r m\u0131s\u0131n? Onunla ilgili bir post yapar m\u0131s\u0131n?<\/p>\n<p>Yapar\u0131m tabi\u2026Niye yapmayay\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ama unutmamam\u0131z laz\u0131m konu a\u015fk olunca kavram karma\u015falar\u0131n\u0131n da y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fcn fazla olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131\u2026<\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk\u0131n ne oldu\u011funu anlatmak i\u00e7in belki a\u015fk\u0131n ne olmad\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 anlatabilirim \u00f6ncelikle;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A\u015fk ba\u011f\u0131ml\u0131l\u0131k de\u011fildir,<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li>A\u015fk sen olmazsan ben ya\u015fayamam demek de\u011fildir,<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/li>\n<li>A\u015fk ve k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131k birbirinden tamamen farkl\u0131 iki duygudur,<\/li>\n<li>A\u015fk s\u00f6m\u00fcr\u00fc, tahakk\u00fcm, mecburiyetler, ac\u0131lar, hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131, nefret ve menfaat i\u00e7ermez,<\/li>\n<li>A\u015fk k\u0131s\u0131tlamalardan, yasaklardan, \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fckten ay\u0131ran her \u015feyin tam z\u0131t k\u00f6\u015fesindedir\u2026<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Diye daha devam edebilirim..Ama as\u0131l konuya geri d\u00f6nersek\u2026 A\u015fk ne de\u011fildir diye de\u011fil, a\u015fk nedir diye sormu\u015ftunuz onu hat\u0131rlarsak e\u011fer\u2026<\/p>\n<p><!--more--><\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk asl\u0131nda kendi i\u00e7inde en y\u00fcksek titre\u015fimlerden biridir\u2026 Bir \u00fczeri; \u00f6zg\u00fcrl\u00fck\u2026Yani anlayaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131z akl\u0131n\u0131za gelen b\u00fct\u00fcn duygular\u0131 \u015f\u00f6yle bir g\u00f6zden ge\u00e7irin, nerdeyse hepsinin \u00fczerinde bir duygudan bahsediyoruz titre\u015fim olarak\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u0130nsanlar ili\u015fkiyle a\u015fk\u0131 kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131rabiliyor..<\/p>\n<p>\u0130nsanlar a\u015fk duygusunu ya\u015famak i\u00e7in bir insan\u0131n gerekli oldu\u011funu ya da bir insan\u0131n sadece o duyguyu aktive edebilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebiliyor,<\/p>\n<p>\u0130nsanlar kendilerini sevmeden ve kendi i\u00e7lerinde a\u015fk duygusunu anlamadan ili\u015fki i\u00e7inde bunu deneyimlemenin i\u015fe yarayabilece\u011fini d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebiliyor,<\/p>\n<p>Ama netle\u015fmek gerekirse e\u011fer\u2026 A\u015fk ve ili\u015fki birbirinden farkl\u0131 \u015feylerdir\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Mutlu olmak ve araba gibi\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Araba olmadan mutlu olunmaz demek gibi ili\u015fki olmadan a\u015f\u0131k olunmaz demek\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Bunlar\u0131n hepsi bence tabi ki, yani onu yads\u0131mayal\u0131m..Onu not d\u00fc\u015fmekte fayda var..<\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk dolu bir ili\u015fki ya\u015famak g\u00fczel bir \u015fey, a\u015f\u0131k iki insan\u0131n bir araya gelip ili\u015fkiye adanmas\u0131 s\u00fcper bir \u015fey\u2026 A\u015fk titre\u015fiminin ne oldu\u011funu bilen ve bu titre\u015fimi hayat\u0131nda isteyen ve daha az\u0131na yetinmeyen insanlar\u0131n adanm\u0131\u015fl\u0131klar\u0131nda a\u015fk\u0131 beraber ya\u015famalar\u0131 bedensel- duygusal ve zihinsel tatminle birlikte hepsinden daha s\u00fcper s\u00fcper\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ama bana sanki biraz hepsi ve her \u015fey birbirine kar\u0131\u015ft\u0131r\u0131l\u0131yormu\u015f gibi geliyor\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2018\u2019A\u015fk istiyorum\u2019\u2019 diyor mesela..\u2019\u2019 E a\u015fk titre\u015fimine a\u00e7\u0131l o zaman, seni o titre\u015fimden ayr\u0131 tutan ne varsa temizle ve a\u015fkla tekrar bulu\u015f \u2018\u2019 diyoruz mesela.. \u2018\u2019 Yok \u00f6yle de\u011fil,\u2019\u2019diyo\u2026<span class=\"Apple-converted-space\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p>O zaman haz ihtiyac\u0131- seks ihtiyac\u0131- sevilme arzusu- takdir g\u00f6rme iste\u011fi- bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n ilgisiyle y\u00fccelme arzusu-ilgi ihtiyac\u0131- be\u011fenilme ihtiyac\u0131- g\u00fcven ihtiyac\u0131- se\u00e7ilmi\u015flik duygusu beslenmesi gibi gibi bir d\u00fcnya ba\u015fka eksik duygunun bir insan\u0131n varl\u0131\u011f\u0131 ile doldurulabilece\u011fi ill\u00fczyonunda olabiliyor ki\u015fi. Bu ihtiya\u00e7tan ba\u015flayan ili\u015fkilerde de biz genelde a\u015fk titre\u015fiminden bahsedemiyoruz\u2026 \u0130htiya\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131land\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ayr\u0131 sorun, kar\u015f\u0131lanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda ayr\u0131 sorun \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor ili\u015fkilerde\u2026 \u0130htiya\u00e7lar ve ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n yaratt\u0131\u011f\u0131 yoksunluk hissi, ya da ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n kar\u015f\u0131lanmas\u0131yla olu\u015fmu\u015f y\u00fckselmeyi de a\u015fk zannedilebiliyor ki\u015fi\u2026.<\/p>\n<p>Ki\u2026 Burda ihtiya\u00e7lar kar\u015f\u0131lanmad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda a\u015fk ac\u0131s\u0131- hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131klar\u0131- k\u0131zg\u0131nl\u0131k- nefret- ac\u0131- vs vs ile yo\u011frulmu\u015f bir \u00e7ok vaka g\u00f6rebiliyoruz\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Ben de b\u00f6yle vaka falan konuluyorum ama\u2026 Hep tecrubelerden anlat\u0131yorum.-))<\/p>\n<p>Bilen bilir\u2026 Hayat\u0131m\u0131n en zor k\u00f6\u015felerinden biriydi a\u015fk duygusu ile ili\u015fkiyi bir araya getirip ikisini beraber ya\u015famay\u0131 becerebilmek\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u0130li\u015fkilere dair tam bir roller coaster ya\u015fad\u0131m senelerce, ve her seferinde kendi i\u00e7imde kendi eril ve di\u015fil enerjilerime, dengesizliklerine, aile haf\u0131zas\u0131nda kay\u0131tl\u0131 programlara, zihnime kaz\u0131nm\u0131\u015f inan\u00e7 programlar\u0131na ve g\u00f6rsellerine d\u00f6n\u00fcp tekrar ve tekrar , y\u0131lmadan ve yeniden \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Neden mi?<\/p>\n<p>\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc can\u0131m \u00f6yle istedi\u2026<\/p>\n<p>A\u015fk\u0131, a\u015fkla deliler gibi ya\u015fad\u0131m..<\/p>\n<p>Ben a\u015fk\u0131 a\u015fkla en ak\u0131ll\u0131 halimde, en tatl\u0131, en uslu, en ben gibi, en a\u015fk dolu ili\u015fkide deneyimlemeyi, o deneyime ula\u015fmay\u0131 istedim, \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m da dedi\u011fim gibi bunun i\u00e7in, pek \u00e7ok \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131m hem de\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Paral\u0131 bir aileden geldi\u011finde ki\u015finin para kazanmas\u0131 daha kolay oluyor, a\u015fk dolu bir ili\u015fkinin oldu\u011fu aileden geldi\u011fi zaman da o kolay oluyor ki\u015finin hayat\u0131nda..<\/p>\n<p>Benim ki kolay olmad\u0131\u2026 Ama oldu sonu\u00e7ta\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Diyece\u011fim odur ki yaniii\u2026..<\/p>\n<p>As\u0131l i\u015fi istedi\u011fin \u015fey i\u00e7in zihinsel- fiziksel- zihinsel \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak da\u2026<\/p>\n<p>K\u0131saca\u2026 \u0130steyen herkese dile\u011fim, aynaya bakt\u0131klar\u0131nda g\u00f6rd\u00fckleri \u015feyle bar\u0131\u015f\u0131p, onu kabul edip, \u00e7ok sevip, o sevgiyle ona iyi davranmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011frenip, hak ettiklerini vermeye ba\u015flay\u0131nca, ona a\u015f\u0131k olunca\u2026A\u015fk\u0131 kendinde bulunca\u2026 Ona uygun ili\u015fki , t\u00fcm di\u011fer ili\u015fkilerde oldu\u011fu gibi, geliyormu\u015f insan\u0131n yana\u011f\u0131na.. Busesiyle\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Sar\u0131ld\u0131m herkese\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Banu<\/p>\n<p>5 Temmuz 2021<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A\u015fk\u2026 A\u015fk Nedir ki demi\u015f bir \u00f6\u011frencim\u2026 Yazar m\u0131s\u0131n? Anlat\u0131r m\u0131s\u0131n? Onunla ilgili bir post yapar m\u0131s\u0131n? Yapar\u0131m tabi\u2026Niye yapmayay\u0131m\u2026 Ama unutmamam\u0131z laz\u0131m konu a\u015fk olunca kavram karma\u015falar\u0131n\u0131n da y\u00fck\u00fcn\u00fcn [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1717,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ngg_post_thumbnail":0,"_EventAllDay":false,"_EventTimezone":"","_EventStartDate":"","_EventEndDate":"","_EventStartDateUTC":"","_EventEndDateUTC":"","_EventShowMap":false,"_EventShowMapLink":false,"_EventURL":"","_EventCost":"","_EventCostDescription":"","_EventCurrencySymbol":"","_EventCurrencyCode":"","_EventCurrencyPosition":"","_EventDateTimeSeparator":"","_EventTimeRangeSeparator":"","_EventOrganizerID":[],"_EventVenueID":[],"_OrganizerEmail":"","_OrganizerPhone":"","_OrganizerWebsite":"","_VenueAddress":"","_VenueCity":"","_VenueCountry":"","_VenueProvince":"","_VenueState":"","_VenueZip":"","_VenuePhone":"","_VenueURL":"","_VenueStateProvince":"","_VenueLat":"","_VenueLng":"","_VenueShowMap":false,"_VenueShowMapLink":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1716","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-genel"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1716","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1716"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1716\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1730,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1716\/revisions\/1730"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/media\/1717"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1716"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1716"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.banukalayci.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1716"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}